Staying Connected During Stressful Times

When life gets overwhelming, relationships with partners often feel strained. Here’s how to maintain the emotional bond when stress tries to pull you apart.

• Share the vulnerable stuff- Instead of just venting about your day, share what’s happening underneath. “ I’m feeling scared about this” connects deeper than “ I’m stressed about work.”

• Reach for each other, not away- When stressed, we often withdraw or get snappy. Try saying “I need you right now” instead of shutting down or picking a fight.

• Respond to bids for connection- When your partner shares something, even something small, turn toward them. A squeeze of the hand or “tell me more” shows you’re there.

• Name the cycle, not the blame-Notice when you’re stuck in pursue-withdraw patterns. “I think we’re doing that thing where I push you, and you pull away” helps you work together instead of against each other..

• Be each other’s safe place- Remind yourselves that you’re on the same team. A simple “we’ll get through this together” can shift everything.

Connection isn’t always about having it all figured out, Sometimes a little communication and grace goes a long way during stressful situations.